Hi, I'm Tess
The Breakup to Breakthrough Coach
Hi, I’m Tess- festival lover, breakup/mindset coach, eldest daughter of divorced parents… which basically means I’ve been peace keeping, overthinking and reading the emotional temperature of a room since I was 7 (if you know you know)!
A few years ago, I hit a full-blown identity crisis that started with a breakup… and ended with me completely rewriting who I am.
At the time, I thought I was in love. But looking back? I was mostly just trying to prove I was lovable. I ignored red flags, made myself smaller, gave more than I had to give and called it “compromise” or blamed it on my people-pleasing tendencies that this was ‘who I am’.
I kept thinking if I could just be less emotional, less intense, more “easygoing”… then maybe it would work.
Spoiler: it didn’t.
When it ended, it felt like my entire life had been pulled out from under me. I didn’t just lose a relationship… I lost the version of myself I had built around it. I didn’t trust myself. I couldn’t make a decision without second guessing it.
And honestly... I didn’t even know what I wanted anymore… I’d been so busy shaping myself around someone else. So I did what most women do after a breakup:I changed everything.
New city. New job. New goals. 2 stone down. Haircut. Glow-up playlist on repeat. From the outside it looked like I was thriving.
But inside, I was still stuck in the same patterns. Same fears. Same insecurities. Same overthinking loop just with better lighting.
That’s when I realised: the issue wasn’t my ex.
It was the beliefs I’d picked up about love, worth and who I had to be to feel chosen.
Beliefs like: “I need to earn love", “I’m just a pushover”, “I’m too much”…subtle, but loud enough to run my entire life.
No amount of hair appointments or gym sessions could fix that. Everything changed when I stopped just “working on myself”… and actually started changing the beliefs underneath it all. That’s the real mindset work. Not forcing yourself to think positive, but shifting what you believe is possible for you.
When you do that? You stop performing, you stop settling, you stop choosing chaos because it’s familiar. You become someone you actually feel proud to be.
Now, I trust myself more than anyone else. I’m deeply confident in who I am, what I want and what I’ll never settle for again. I don’t need to be chosen to feel worthy- I already know I am.
And I help women do the same. Not with surface level healing, but with deep identity shifts that actually last.
What do you do?
In short - I help recently single women stop spiralling after heartbreak and turn it into the glow-up of their lives. Through a blend of mindset shifts, subconscious reprogramming and bold identity work, I guide my clients to rebuild their confidence, reignite their spark and create a life so good they’ll never settle again.
I work with women who are done waiting, done settling and ready to rise into the life they have always known they were worthy of. Whether you’ve just come out of a relationship or you’ve been stuck replaying the past, if you’re here to rewrite the way you love, lead, and live- I’m here to help you make it happen.